Today I just want to be real and honest and share a few honest thoughts concerning sex and purity. Often it is treated as a hush hush no go area and few people really want to go deep into the matter and get real about questions that matter and those that do not. And it is this silence that has allowed the adversary to steal a march on this generation, purveying his lies through pornography that has has grown so hardcore people have been killed on set, through media that tells 10 year old boys and girls that to moan and groan like Rihanna or Nicki Minaj do in imitating sex is the norm and through movies that say if you are 16 and you haven’t had sex you are a loser. Well that aint right and today my heart is begin to share with you what I hope will free you and liberate you from every lie the enemy has put against you and show you the heart of God our sexuality.
You see, this may shock you to discover but God came about with the concept and idea of sex. It was not any movie or American Pie or some other guy I heard who sang I invented sex or something like that. Look at around you, at all the people you know and i assure all the people you are looking at are living proof that sex is not a new concept or idea. There are people who go around claiming that to have sex with as many people as possible is to have fun, it is to enjoy, or worse some who use terminology like i need to gain some experience before I settle down or everybody’s doing or whatever it is..
First off, I ain’t sleeping around so not everybody is doing it and please stop lying to me. I have grown to understand a few things along my walk with God and one of which is part of the purpose of our sex drives. You see, unless you are called to be single like Paul and you have the gift for being single like He did, you will fall into the category of human beings that I fall under who have and will have a sex drive that is active before you actually get married and are permitted to enjoy the joy of sex. Whilst it would have been easier for us if our sex drives awakened after we got married, it would not be best for us and I will show you why. I assure you God did not make a mistake, He made us this way and He said it was very good.
To hit the nail on the head with one simple statement, the value of my virginity is not in the statistic that says I have not had sex but it is in the intensity of the struggle it takes for me to keep it from being a single man all the way to the honeymoon night. David said something remarkable in his life when he said ‘Far be it from me to offer to God something that costs me nothing.’ And he understood the value of sacrifice for in giving, I can simply give out of excess what I do not need but when I sacrifice, I place value on the recipient of the sacrifice that says I believe your benefit is worth it for me to go through this pain.
To stay sexually inactive and pure until marriage will not be the easiest thing for you to do, it just does not work that way. But it is best for therein you learn the value that you must attach to your marriage partner. You learn that I am not getting into marriage with an object, I am getting in with a human being, with thoughts, emotions desires and their own way of doing things that I must be willing to listen to, to meke time for and to put my own feelings and thoughts aside for to see them happy and smiling. If you have already bought into the common themes in Hollywood, then the basic value of a woman to you is a sex object, a tool for you to use when you need and a men is nothing more than a life support system for his sex organ and when this is what you think and see, then marriage sucks. Life sucks for there is no value in them or in me therefore I might as well chase the thrills for who cares???
But when you realise when God said he made man a helper, the same words can be translated ‘a power facing him’ and that the very word for helper God uses there is one in Hebrew He uses 18 other times to describe His own help for man, your value system crumbles. You realise in every human is the breadth of God, with him or with her, the Father is jealous of and is very protective over it changes the meaning of life. Because now you see there is more than the climax of the moment, but there is a substance to life that every thrill must backup and that the thrill alone can never be enough; pursuit of the thrill in the absence of the substance to back it up will only leave you empty, chasing more thrills and dreamless, without vision, direction or any true and lasting joy.
Chances are you may have fallen already and you don’t think there is a return for you. You are wrong my friend. Sometime ago, I really felt the Lord ask me this question and I knew then it concerned people who had had sex outside of marriage for I was at that point a bit condemning and in a bit of the mind that says ‘i must marry a virgin because I will be one when I get married and it will not be fair to marry someone who is not.’ It is after all the common argument that many put across when they say why remain a virgin? Everyone is doing it. All He asked was ‘If I have chosen to forgive their sins, who are you to remember them’ and from that day I know beyond doubt that there is forgiveness, there is redemption and there is more than enough grace to get your life and your future marriage back on track, no matter how far down the road, I proclaim to you that the Lord Jesus is alive today to proclaim to you the forgiveness of all your sins, including your sexual sins. Receive this forginveness and grace and from today live free, and let noone remind you of your past sins….even if they have pictures or videos, your sins are forgiven and the Father is not remembering them or reminding you of them (now you know who that guy works for whose reminding you).
My friends, sex is God given and it is something beautiful but believe me when I say it is well worth the wait